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3 Steps to Overcoming the Mental Roadblocks to Engagement

In my last post - "3 Mental Roadblocks to Engagement" - I introduced you to the thoughts of  "interference" to engagement as a result of personal bias, low expectations, and selfish ambitions.

The ability to engage others leads to countless possibilities and opportunities. Whether those opportunities are in the classroom, the teacher's lounge, or the CEO's office - engagement matters!

3 Steps to Overcoming the Mental Roadblocks to Engagement

Acknowledge your bias.

Your personal filters and lenses are present in every transaction. Before you begin, be honest with yourself and acknowledge that your view(s) may be biased and your perspectives clouded. Acknowledging bias is critical to engagement. Acknowledging bias creates an opportunity for substantial personal growth and reflection.

Set high expectations.

Never doubt the possibilities. Never.

When you start an engagement transaction, set the bar high. If you believe your presence will not matter, it won't. Setting high expectations is challenging as it may result in disappointment, and, that is acceptable.

Embrace your ambition.

If no one has ever given you permission to embrace your selfish ambitions, I do! We are wired to protect and grow ourselves. One of the top safety protocols in an airplane is to "place the mask on yourself before you assist others."

Zig Ziglar said it best, "if you help enough other people get what they want, you will get what you want."

I agree, and, it is okay.

Acknowledging your bias will allow you to set high expectations.  Embracing your ambition will allow you to help both yourself and others!

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Social Intelligence: 
The New Science of Human Relationships by Daniel Goleman



Failing to understand the "3 Mental Roadblocks to Engagement" and how to overcome them may slow both personal and organizational success and growth.

As always – if you would like to learn more about this topic - or - book me to speak with your organization, operators are standing by!

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